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ADHD and education:how you change your life through your view.Basic three:- The meaning of the life you live has the meaning you give. This is a statement to think about further. Many people (especially often people with ADHD) are looking for the meaning of things, behaviour, life. The reason is often, the suffering – followed trough the effects. These are very serious, before I mentioned on this website that these effect can be devastating and more serious than the qualities of the ‘dis’order. Nevertheless, the sense, point of what we do or don’t and even the meaning of life is a delicate question. We all are raised with a specific idea about the world and nature. When we grow-up and get older we make our own picture. You decide.This can be the idea we take with us from our parents and peer group, but also our own conviction, made by ourselves. Whatever, you have a world view, philosophy of life. And no one in the world can say that there is one view right. In spite of the preachers, prophets however they are named or name themselves, nobody has the monopoly on wisdom.But…. One has. And that One is You. You make your own image, you have your own thought. And who is another human to tell you whether this is good or bad? View on identityThis goes for everything in life, but especially in the field of giving meaning to life, the source and destination of this. You can ask me: ‘can’t we be wrong, then?’ Tricky question, what is wrong? Ho do we judge that and based on which criteria?If we see by example Bob Dylan (a famous rock-musician), he will give another answer now than ten years ago. He is raised in a Jewish environment, became protest-singer than, later ‘reborn’ as Christian, after that he made several ‘trips’ to other de-nominations. The point is that we – consciously or not- base our identity on our view of ourselves and the world. An identity in itself can not be wrong. ( Altough: the Zen has a statement which says: “The I is an illusion”….) Good newsThe good news of this all is, that we make our world, ourselves through our view on these. And, if this is true, why don’t we choose the best, the most helpful, positive view?Yes, it is true that the possession of ADHD comes with suffering. But doesn’t life come with that for all people?I remember a story that’s told about the Buddha: an old woman, marked through suffering life-events, came to him and asked: “Why do I have to suffer, what is the use of all this? Why are all the other people so gifted and happy in life?” Buddha answered: “Go out and ask on the people behind all doors you see if they have no suffering. When you have the answer, come back.” He did never see her again………….. So: when we make a picture of ourselves, where we put our positive traits, successes, the gifts to be grateful for, we help ourselves. And it is as true as the picture where we see our suffering, struggling, pain and so on. This is in essence the aim of: the meaning of the life you live has the meaning you give.
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