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ADHD characteristic:the clearer it is you want, the closer it gets.- The clearer it is what you want the closer it gets.This statement has proven to be very helpful for my clients. I explain here how and why. It will become clear how essential the choice of a goal in life is and what is necessary prior to this.
Begin.People who become my clients ask for coaching. They realize that not hiring a coach cost more in loss of time than consulting one.The process of coaching requires first a balance. Where are you now? What do you have that you want, and what do you not want that you have now? The last point is quiet easy; the difficulty is in the question: what do I want, what is my goal exact? Where do I go to, which direction? Start of self-knowledge.The fact is often, that we, as adults gifted with ADHD, know ourselves quiet well and know that, what we want today is maybe not, what we want tomorrow. The great discovery for me as coach is, that every client (and I dare to say that this is valid for every human) has an inner conviction of the direction she/he wants to go in life.There are many techniques for a coach to help unfold these. What really counts is the fact that this is true. Every human that can think, has an idea about the goal in life, at least about the direction. The seed of that, is usually there in the present acting. Who are the people around you? What do they give you in terms of feelings and thoughts? These are guidelines, which help to unfold the mission of your life. Imagination in real-life.This so-called ‘vocation’ can be a heavy term at first sight. What I mean in this context is: what is your contribution in life? What do you give others, which no one else can give in this world, in your unique way? The question that helped me personally in this process is: “Imagine that you have consciously chosen to come in this life. This (imaginary?) choice includes the place and time where you are born. What is the reason then, the motive?”If you are willing to approach this question with an open mind, the answer can be surprising! In addition, in another way you will strongly feel, that it is familiar, because it is in essence You.
Find your Self.When you come this far, your life can change dramatically. In every case your feelings and view about life. When you found your inner drive, everything you do will become lighter. The choice of what you want, comes very near and suddenly it is much easier to decide. Because you made connection with your Inner Self and that is what really counts.In addition, when the choice is made of what you want, then ‘the Universe conspires’ to paraphrase Ralph Waldo Emerson. Then you see suddenly signposts, resources that direct you more and more. Attention at direction.In people, gifted with ADHD, is often not the problem to execute the choices and decisions. To give enough attention at the process that comes prior is the challenge. When that process is handled solidly, one has found the real inner drive, then is what you do, as profession or business, not that important anymore. It fits in the Great Line of your life, the Real Direction!In addition, when this fits and is based on the right ethical, social and spiritual or religious value’s, nothing or no one can stop this. Success guaranteed! ADHD characteristic: end. More statements.
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