ADHD Social: Image Focus Action (IFA)

In this adhd social publication, I address action. At the previous pages, I talked about the idea/image/intention and focus and now action. These tree components are necessary for success. If one factor is missing, success stays away.

It may look like an open door to say that action is a necessary part. However, I see very much people struggle in this. To know what one wants and to guide the attention to there may be easy. To do what must be done is often the hardest part.

We do not know what to do, we do not have time, and it may be scaring to jump into action. Scaring? Why scaring? I hear you asking this  I will explain it.

Billions of Dollars

The fact that we want something else than we have, is not difficult. Very, very much people look for something else than where they are. The (self-) help sector grounds on this fact. When we should be able to do what must be done to get where we want, this service has no right to exist.

However, people spend billions of dollars in this business. The origin is that we struggle with action. Why is this? Are we, in essence, lazy? Are we afraid for the outcome? On the other hand, is it the frightening to let go what we have? Maybe it is a combination of these factors.

Hardest Part

I see often in my practice, that this is the hardest part. Exploring what one wants is fun to do, especially in the safe atmosphere of the coaching relationship. The focusing is more difficult, but when the action is not there yet, this seems like freewheeling. When my first question in a coaching session is: did you do what you promised yourself? Then I know that is not a good start.

ADHD social environment

The problem is – in my view – that the gap between where we are and where we want to be is huge. In many cases. The confusion is there: how do I become millionaire, when I can’t pay my mortgage today, i.e.?

The key is then to break the point of starting and the desired outcome. In the example of the poor who wants to be a millionaire: how does she get the first $ 100? In addition, if these hundred bucks are there, how does she make $ 200? And so on.

When, in this example, the goal is divided in first making $ 100, then $ 200, thereupon the first $ 1000, it makes sense. It is essential to keep the eye on the $ 1,000,000 but the action on the first hundred dollars. This is the same for losing weight, becoming famous, and so on.

One thing is sure, when the idea is clear, the focus on the idea, but the action is missing: no way. Keep dreaming and have fun in that.

Profile

If you recognize yourself in above adhd social mentioned profile, it is maybe the best investment to look for someone who helps you. This may be a coach, a friend, or brother/sister that does not mind. The most successful people do have such person (or more in their adhd social environment) and they are fully aware of the meaning of these helping people. The help they give is to be a sounding board, not the slave who does the work for the other’s dream.

My intention is that these words inspire you to do, make action. If that action is, that you find someone as sounding board to get into the next steps, than these words and ideas are not idle.

ADHD Social, Matter of the Mind

First Ingredient for IFA: Image Focus Action